What Men’s Rooms Can Teach Us About Leadership and Management
I hope this post doesn’t gross anyone out or offend anyone. I admit it’s a little weird, and that it’s more accessible to men. Hopefully everyone can get my point, even if men get it a bit more. I’m channeling Brad as I write this. So bear with me.
Here is a picture of a men’s room with floor mats under the urinals.

The difference between using a men’s room that has floor mats and using a men’s room that does not have floor mats is profound in multiple ways. I’ll leave out the specifics, but you can imagine the comparative experiences if you haven’t had one or both.
A really good floor mat, from a quick scan of Amazon and Uline just now, costs $11 if you buy in bulk and is built to last 4-6 weeks. That gives us an annual per urinal expense of about $100 – trivial in the scheme of maintaining an office, restaurant, or place of business.
But here’s the thing. These floor mats are few and far between. I don’t have scientific research on the matter, but I’d guess that between 1 in 5 and 1 in 10 places of business have them. Maybe even fewer.
So, urinal floor mats are (a) cheap, (b) easy to acquire, and (c) make a profound difference in the environment. And yet, they are only have 10-20% market penetration at most.
That market penetration is not far off from the prevalence of very good leadership and management in business. I hear stories all the time from executives about absolutely terrible leadership practices. I also hear plenty of stories that aren’t awful, but are evidence of non-leadership or non-management. The experience of working for a good manager, or in an organization with strong leadership, is profoundly different than working with the absence of those things.
To complete the analogy, good management and leadership are also (a) cheap, (b) easy to acquire, and (c) make a profound difference in the work environment. Sure, you can’t buy good leadership online, but it’s not all that difficult to be a caring, supportive, transparent manager. Heck, there’s even a book called The One Minute Manager.
So why the low market penetration of both? It makes no logical sense. It’s not as if most people haven’t had the experience of using a urinal with a floor mat…or of having a really good leader or manager. It’s not as if leaders and decision makers don’t appreciate those things themselves.
The answer boils down to three simple points that anyone who is a manager or leader can do, any day:
- You have to pay attention
- You have to care
- You have to act
Great leaders and managers exhibit all three of these traits. They pay attention to things around them, noting that Everything is Data. They care about people, about experiences, about impressions, about reputations. And when they notice that something is off – however small it is – they care enough to remember and then take the time to act. To make a small change. Send an email. Have a quick conversation. Make a suggestion. Give someone quick praise or constructive feedback.
And to come back to where this post started – it’s also not that hard to have a nice men’s room at your office or business or restaurant. You just have to pay attention to the fact that it’s a much better experience to buy floor mats. You have to care about the experience in the men’s room (for yourself, for employees, for customers, for vendors, for visitors). And then you have to act and either buy the stupid mats or ask an office manager to do the same!
How Do You Eat an Elephant?
How Do You Eat an Elephant?
Credit to my colleague Chuck Drake for this one…but How Do You Eat an Elephant? One Bite at a Time. The David Allen school of time management (post, book)  talks about breaking your projects down into “Next Actions” so they don’t become overwhelming and can easily move forward one step at a time.
I think the same is true of organizational projects – perhaps even more so. Any time we find ourselves swirling around a big initiative at Return Path, we are at our best when we ask ourselves some questions along these lines:
- How can we be scrappier about this?
- It it ok to be messy here…or at least not perfect?
- What is the next milestone?
- What else needs to be done until we learn the likely outcome?
We had a great example of this recently around rolling out a new product to our sales and service team. The team is now pretty large – over 100 globally. It was a daunting task to try to get all those people trained up at once. The answer? We took a bite out of the elephant. We picked a couple of sales reps and a couple of account managers and started by training them on the new product. Now we can figure out how to institutionalize learnings from the limited roll-out and figure out the next step from there. Much easier than what otherwise would have been a pretty high-stakes project without enough learnings behind it, even though it will take a little longer and be a little messier.
How to Wow Your Manager
How to Wow Your Manager
Last week, I talked about how to Wow your employees. Now I am going to discuss the converse of that – How to Wow your Manager. Why Wow your manager? Even if you are senior leader in an organization, the Wow factor is still important.
What impact does a Wow have? It sends the signal that you are on top of things. Symbolism is important. It also advances the cause further and faster. Why do you want to foster Wow moments with your team? High performing teams have a lot of Wow going on. If all members of a team see Wow regularly, they are all inspired to do more sooner, better.
Here are my top 10 examples on how to WOW your manager, along with the intended impact:
- Show up for every check-in with the full agenda – send it a day or more ahead (Give your manager time and space to prepare)
- Â When you are asking your manager to communicate something (an email to the team, a reference letter, etc.), draft it for him or her (Editing is much easier than creating)
-  Do a start-stop-continue analysis once a year on all of your key activities (Make yourself as efficient and effective as possible – that’s your responsibility as much as your manager’s)
- Â Own your own development plan and check in on it at least quarterly (Those who own their own career paths progress more quickly down them)
- Read a relevant business book and ask your manager to discuss insights with you (Staying current with best practices in your field – books, articles, blog posts, videos, mentors, lectures – Â is key in a learning organization)
-  Dress for success – even casual can be neat and “client ready” (Your presence has an impact on those around you. There’s no reason anyone should ever have to comment on your clothes, your hair, or any aspect of your personal hygiene)
- Respond to every email where you are on the TO line within a day, even if it’s to say you will respond longer form later (At Return Path,  you have to be in the jet stream of communications. Otherwise, you find yourself in the exhaust of the jet stream)
- End every meaningful interaction by asking for informal feedback on how you’re doing and what else you can be doing (Again, part of being in a learning organization…and taking more tasks on is always a sign that you are ready for more responsibility)
- Do something that’s not required but that you feel is a best practice (This shows you’re on top of your game. One example: I send the Board a summary, the details, and the YoY trending of all of my expenses every year. I don’t have to, but enough CEOs out there have high profile expense problems that I decided it’s a good practice. They all LOVE it)
-  (If you have staff reporting into you) Show up for every check-in with your manager with a list of all staff issues and highlights (You need to bubble things up, both good and bad, so your manager is on top of his or her overall team and (a) is never surprised by events, (b) knows how best to handle skip-level communications, and (c) can think more broadly about resource deployment across the organization)
Do Business Books Suck for Entrepreneurs?
Do Business Books Suck for Entrepreneurs?
Ben thinks they do. Some of his reasons are pretty good, but I’d challenge a few of them, or at least his finer points.
My experience over the years is that while most business books are not geared toward entrepreneurs, a good entrepreneur will figure out how to milk them for what they’re worth quickly and apply key learnings to his or her company.Â
The reality is that running a startup or high growth company is a multi-faceted and incredibly dynamic experience, and having a bunch of outside inputs in the form of business book examples and theories can be really helpful.Â
Even bad ideas can spur good thinking.
The Best Place to Work, Part 7: Create a Thankful Atmosphere
The Best Place to Work, Part 7: Create a Thankful Atmosphere
My final installment of this long series on Creating the best place to work (no hierarchy intended by the order) is about Creating a thankful atmosphere.
What does creating a thankful atmosphere get you? It gets you great work, in the form of people doing their all to get the job done. We humans – all of us, absolutely including CEOs – appreciate being recognized when they do good work. Honestly, I love what I do and would do it without any feedback, but nothing resonates with me more than a moment of thanks from someone on my exec team or my Board. Why should anyone else in the organization be any different?
This is not about giving everyone a nod in all-hands by doing shout-outs. That’s not sustainable as the company grows. And not everyone does great work every week or month! And it’s not about remembering to thank people in staff meetings, either, although that’s never bad and easier to contain and equalize.
It is about informal, regular pats on the back. To some extent inspired by the great Ken Blanchard book Whale Done, and as I’ve written about before here, it’s about enabling the organization to be thankful, and optimizing your own thankfulness.
Years ago we created a peer award system on our company Intranet/Wiki at Return Path. We enable Peer Recognition through this. As of late, with about 350 employees, we probably have 30-40 of these every week. They typically carry a $25 gift card award, although most employees tell me that they don’t care about the gift card as much as the public recognition. Anyone can nominate anyone for one of the following awards, which are unique to us and relevant to our culture:
- EE (Everyday Excellence) -is designed for us to recognize those who demonstrate excellence and pride in their daily work.
- ABCD (Above and Beyond the Call of Duty) -is designed for us to recognize the outstanding work of our colleagues who go Above and Beyond their duties and exemplify exactly what Return Path is about
- WOOT (Working Out Of Title) -is designed for us to recognize those who offer assistance that is not part of their job responsibilities.
- OTB (On The Business)-is about pulling ourselves out of day-to-day tasks and ensuring we are continually aligned with the long-term, strategic direction of the business. We make sure we’re not just optimizing our current tasks and processes but that we’re also thinking about whether or not we should even be doing those things. We stop to think outside of the “box” and about the interrelationship between what we are doing and everything else in the organization. In doing so, we connect the leaves, the branches, the trunk, the roots and soil of the tree to the hundreds of other trees in the forest. We step back to look at the big picture
- TLAO ( Think Like An Owner)-means that every one of us holds a piece of the Company’s future and is empowered to use good judgment and act on behalf of Return Path. In our day-to-day jobs we take personal responsibility for our products, services and interactions.  We spend like it’s our own money and we think ahead. We are trusted to handle situations like we own the business because we are smart people who do the right thing. We notice the things happening around us that aren’t in our day-to-day and take action as needed even if we’re not directly responsible
- Blue Light Special is designed for us to recognize anyone who comes up with a clever way to save the company money)
- Coy Joy Award is in memory of Jen Coy who was positive, optimistic and able to persevere through the most difficult of circumstances. This award is designed to recognize individuals who exemplify the RP values and spread joy through the workplace. This can be by going above and beyond to welcome new employees, by showing a high degree of care and consideration for another person at RP, by being a positive and uplifting influence, and/or making another person laugh-out-loud.
- Human Firewall is awarded if you catch a colleague taking extra care around security or privacy in some way, maybe a suggestion in a meeting, a feature in a product, a suggestion around policy or practice in the office.
In the early days, we read these out each week at All-Hands meetings. Today at our scale, we announce these awards each week on the Wiki and via email. And I and other leaders of the business regularly read the awards list to see who is doing what good work and needs to be separately thanked on top of the peer award.
Beyond institutionalizing thanks…in terms of you as an individual person, there are lots of ways to give thanks that are meaningful. Some are about maximizing Moments of Truth. Another thing I do from time to time is write handwritten thank you notes to people and mail them to their homes, not to work. But there are lots of ways to spend the time and mental energy to appreciate individuals in your company in ways that are genuine and will be noticed and appreciated. To some extent, this paragraph (maybe this whole post) could be labeled “It’s the little things.”
That’s it for this series…again, the final roundup for the full series of Creating the Best Place to Work is here and individual posts are here:
- Surround yourself with the best and brightest
- Create an environment of trust
- Manage yourself very, very well
- Be the consummate host
- Be the ultimate enabler
- Let people be people
- Create a thankful atmosphere
Anyone have any other techniques I should write about for Creating the Best Place to Work?
Counter Cliche: How Much Paranoia is Too Much Paranoia?, Part II
Counter Cliche: How Much Paranoia is Too Much Paranoia?, Part II
After the original posting, one of my readers wrote in with the following question:
I was one of the first employees at a pre-funding enterprise social networking company, after having consulted on doing their business plan for them (not coming up with it; mainly turning the CEO and CTO’s engineer-speak into English).
After being asked to participate more fully in the marketing and biz dev aspects of the company, I quickly found myself stymied by the level of secrecy the CEO maintained. Now, I understand that you wouldn’t want important information getting out to competitors, but that can be handled by making that clear to team members. I found it frustrating and that it encumbered the kind of “team spirit” that a good startup should have; it prevented the sharing of how someone moved the ball forward, and having others weigh in on how incremental moves based on this new information could make non-linear gains.
So with all that background, when you say “open book” to your employees, can you break that out some more? I have an idea of what I think that means, and what it doesn’t, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on it too.
My thoughts on this are quite simple. We are willing to share everything internally other than compensation. We publish detailed monthly financials and reporting to the team, and we ask that they treat the information as extremely confidential. We have had only good things come from this level of openness with our team. Good ideas, good esprit de corps, and a radical reduction in fear of the unknown (the old "Looks like we had a bad quarter, does that mean I need to look for a job now? Are we running out of money?").
In fact, I know one other CEO who goes so far as to publish an only-slightly modified version of his Board books to the entire company.
Transparency is a good thing.
Five Years On
Five Years On
As of this past weekend, I’ve been blogging on OnlyOnce for five years. My main reflection as I was thinking about it during this morning’s run is that blogging is different. I started blogging to try out what was at the time the “new, new thing” (there were almost no CEO blogs at the time), just like I have tried out lots of other new technologies or web services from time to time over the years — from Skype to Facebook to Twitter to about 50 others.
You’ll never see a tweet from me about an anniversary of using Twitter. Or any other comparable from that above list. Blogging has ended up being fundamentally different. It’s not just another expression of my status updates or another way to connect with friends and colleagues. It’s become a core part of my business operating system, although I suppose that’s the case for many other tools as well.Â
I think the main difference is that OnlyOnce has become a true form of creative expression for me. It’s like (I imagine) writing a book or composing a piece of music. I’m not suggesting it’s high art, but I view it more as an ongoing project than most other online tools or sites I’ve tried out over the years.
Here’s to the next five years of it.
Vertical (Dis)Integration
Vertical (Dis)Integration
A couple years ago, Dave Morgan wrote one of the best thought pieces on the future of the newspaper business in his Mediapost column. Essentially his observation was that newspapers are an outdated vertical integration, and that to survive, smart papers would disaggregate into 5 separate companies and run each one as a separate business, taking on a new life unshackled from the newspaper: local ad sales (they could own that franchise for the Yelps and Yodles of the world), local content (who better to syndicate local content?), local distribution (no other companies drop something on every doorstep every day), printing (still a business that requires scale), and digital. It’s just a brilliant idea.
And it’s a shame none of them followed his advice, since they’re all going out of business now.
What occurred to me this week as I’m soaking in the goodness that is my new Amazon Kindle is that while newspapers may need to disaggregate to stay alive, Amazon is slowly amassing a strategy of very clever vertical integration that could well fuel its growth for decades to come.
The Kindle is brilliant vertical integration — it’s the device, the distribution, and the retail model all in one. And if Amazon is smart, eventually once they have enough market share, they’ll just start doing deals directly with authors and cut out the publishing industry altogether and own the content as well. They can hit both the long tail (with publishing and distribution costs approaching zero, the risk associated with signing a new untested writer for a revenue share deal are nil) as well as the head (cool place to release your newest book if you’re, say, Steven King). And at that point, they’ll have a model that should produce an enormous amount of profit for them.
It’s interesting to look at these two situations in parallel — the transition of old media to new media, with one set of losers and a winner, where winning strategies are polar opposites.
Education and Entrepreneurship
Education and Entrepreneurship
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Fred posted his thoughts the other day that you don’t need a college degree to be a successful entrepreneur. He is clearly right in that one CAN be successful without it. Gates, Zuckerberg, Dell have proven that.Â
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I’ve always said that I didn’t think an MBA was a prerequisite for a successful business career. That’s easy for me to say, as I don’t have one despite many years of applying, deferring, cancelling, reapplying and general hand-wringing over whether or not to go in the mid-90s. An MBA is probably a positive on a resume for the most part (hard to argue it’s a negative), but it’s not a prerequisite. Every time I see “MBA preferred” on a job posting, I cringe (we never say that at Return Path). Really? You’d *prefer* to hire someone with an MBA over someone with two additional years of relevant work experience?Â
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That said, I’d note that there are things one gets out of a good college education that are critical to success in life. Yes, they can be learned outside the classroom. But unlike business school material, which is in many cases the stuff of work experience and more easily augmented by observation and the occasional business article or book (as far as I can tell), the things one learns in college which are applicable to entrepreneurship aren’t about the subject matter of the course. They are things like:
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– learning and applying new concepts quickly
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– critical reasoning
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– crisply presenting ideas
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– respecting deadlines and guidelines
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– understanding and appreciating other points of view
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As with business school, these things *can* be learned outside a university environment, and certainly there are unusually talented people who have these traits hard wired. But I do think the university environment cultivates and nurtures these skills in a way that is easier than the “do it yourself” world of teenage entrepreneurship.Â
Child Prodigies, or Misspent Youths?
Child Prodigies, or Misspent Youths?
I just got an email from a reader of this blog with a subject line of "15 year-old entrepreneur" and a series of engaging questions around starting a business (and actually, quite a good idea for one as well). It got me thinking about being a kid and being an entrepreneur at the same time. The author of this email is impressively savvy and focused on the world of business and startups.
Ben Casnocha is another one. Ben is 19, has already started two companies, and has written and published a book called My Startup Life.
When I was 15, I actually did have an inkling that I was going to go into business someday, and probably even that I wanted to start a business someday. After all, it’s what my dad did, and what both of my grandfathers did. But the key words in that sentence are INKLING and SOMEDAY. I’m not sure it would have occurred to me in a million years to actually start a real business. I suppose I could have figured out how. But I wasn’t interested in doing it, or I didn’t have a good peer network of business-minded teens, or something.
It’s interesting to think about whether or not I’d be a better entrepreneur or CEO today if I’d started entrepreneurial pursuits at age 15 instead of age ~25. Certainly, one makes a huge number of mistakes the first time one does anything, so perhaps better to get those out of the way early. But I have to imagine that there are some things that one learns with age about dealing with other people that can’t be hurried up just because one starts businesses early.
Anyway, my hat is off to guys like Ben and the even younger guy who wrote into me…I just hope they’re making enough time for more standard teenage fun with their friends as well!
A New (Old) Favorite Returns as a Blog
A New (Old) Favorite Returns as a Blog
Andy Sernovitz’s very cleverly-named Damn, I Wish I’d Thought of That is back, this time in blog and RSS feed format as well as, of course, email newsletter format. Andy is a Return Path alum and does a great job of crystallizing smart and clever ideas for marketers into manageable nuggets, particularly around viral and word-of-mouth marketing (Andy wrote a great book on WOM marketing, which I reviewed here).
He was nice enough to interview me for his blog. As a teaser, Andy asked me (and a bunch of other people) three questions:
Great marketing comes down to one simple idea: Earn the respect and recommendation of your customers, and they will do the rest. What is your advice for any company that wants to …
1 … make people happy?
2 … earn respect?
3 … get a word of mouth recommendation?
The full interview is on Andy’s new site here.